It's funny how as a 'Yes' person I have found it so hard to ask other people to do things I am unable to do. However I have been so fortunate to have so many people in my life that don't need to answer 'yes' as they just do it for me because they know it needs to be done.

My incredible family members and mates that looked after me, gave me a bed, made my meals, looked after my dogs, my sheep, took me out of my confinement to keep my spirits up, did my washing, mowed my lawn, took me to my appointments, filled forms for me, came and sat with me while I was stuck in bed all those weeks, and most of all, were just 'there' for me. Then there are the strangers that gave me a ride when they saw I couldn't get down the street on my crutches, the cab driver that practically carried me to the door, the air hostesses that carried my bags, the neighbour that lent me a mower, the waitress that made being in a wheelchair feel absolutely normal and then there was the electrician who just now came to fix a power point and ended up hanging all our pictures, these are just a few examples of the incredible kindness I have been on the receiving end....without asking.

Sometimes though, I am baffled when people say 'No' to others. Especially for things that are really needed and what is being asked is not much. Like a ride to the airport, looking after kids while someone has a doctors appointment or day surgery, taking care of a dog for a few days or watering plants. One thing I have really noticed is its those people who are always ready to ask people to do things or get things are the same one who aren't to ready to reciprocate.

I have often heard in the defense of religion that many Christians say, that without faith the world will fall into anarchy.... those people who were there making me meals, putting up with my drug induced state, helping me to the toilet all had one thing in common ... they were free of religion. Whilst I have many friends who are religious, both Muslim and Christian, they didn't help me the way my non-religious mates did, so it kinda blows the whole, 'religion is what compels people to perform altruistic acts'. I'm not upset that this is the case, I'm just pointing out that helping others is not something that is compelled from a higher force or done because scripture says to.... it happens because people are intrinsically good and feel good when they receive and pass on that feeling when they themselves give.

'It takes all kinds to make the world go round' is the saying, but that doesn't mean we should be content to accept people who are willing to take - but unwilling - to give by joining them.

Though its sometimes hard, I reckon if people find that they are too important to help..... ask again 'cause they may realise they can ..... and soon enough they might get in the habit of saying 'Yes, of course I can'.